Emotional intelligence is all about managing your emotions in a positive way to help you maintain your mental wellbeing and build better relationships with those around you.
Here is a list of 10 things emotionally intelligent people don’t do.
1. They don’t get angry when someone doesn’t show commitment to their goals. They realise that what’s important to them is not necessarily as important to someone else.
2. They listen to the full story and look at the whole picture before passing judgement on any given situation. If anything they avoid judging others but empathise and help to find solutions to problems.
3. They don’t spread themselves thin by being afraid to say no. They don’t fear rejection but value their wellbeing and set boundaries for their own protection.
4. They understand that failure is a great teacher and don’t give up easily. They learn from their mistakes and carry on as hard as it may feel at the time.
5. They understand the importance of humility. They avoid displaying arrogance around others because they know that in life you don’t always know whom you are in the company of. A show of arrogance can lose people key opportunities. You can’t show arrogance to a potential investor or future business partner.
6. They never burn professional bridges. They stay cordial at all times even if all they want to do is to never look back at a place they may have once loathed. Former bosses, partners or colleagues may come in handy in the future.
7. They know the right time to share their plans with others. Very rarely are they quick to share the details of their plans before all the ducks align. They know they don’t need to prove their progress to anyone.
8. They never let negative talk take them away from working towards achieving their goals. They realise not everyone will understand or find it easy to see their vision. It’s not for ‘them’ to understand. Your priority should be to work towards your set goals and dreams.
9. They understand that we all have freedom of choice but that every choice we make has consequences and implications. They tend not to blame those around them when things don’t go as planned.
10. They know that to have the right to do something doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do as quoted by Michael Steele. Emotionally intelligent people think ahead of the consequences their actions could bring.
It takes working on your personal development to manage your emotions in a positive way. The important thing is to start working on it if you haven’t already. Listen to podcasts, audiobooks or read books whenever you can. Apply what you learn to your everyday life.
After all , the only way to perfect what we learn is by taking action and doing it.